By: April Carson
"Every morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters the most." - Buddha
What Is Resilience?
Your mental strength is also known as your resilience, which means the ability to bounce back quickly from setbacks. If you are strong-willed and have a high level of mental toughness, then you can persevere in life even when faced with hindrances or obstacles that may cause other people to give up or collapse. You can build resilience and mental strength by thinking and acting like a winner and learning to handle stress and pressure.
Strong-willed people have a positive attitude, a clear sense of direction and the ability to stay focused. They are people who take action while others hesitate because they know that inaction leads to failure. Strong-willed people also have the power to control their emotions and think clearly in tough situations. Such individuals do not give up or give in easily when faced with problems or hurdles that other people may succumb to or collapse under.
The reason you get stressed out is because you are too hard on yourself. I know this sounds like a contradiction to what I said in the previous paragraph but hear me out. You may be thinking or saying, "Well stress happens because of external forces that are beyond my control." This statement is only partly true. Yes, there are situations out in the world that can cause you stress and anxiety but most of the time it's your own thoughts and expectations that create a lot of unnecessary pressure and tension.
When we expect too much from ourselves we set up unrealistic goals and standards for how we think we should be acting or living our lives. The funny part is that we only show the world our "best" side. But when we go home and allow ourselves to be vulnerable or alone with our thoughts, fears and feelings bad things can happen. We may feel sad, depressed, anxious or irritable because of things we've said or done in the past. We're beating up on ourselves for not being good enough.
The human mind is an incredible computer that can be programmed both positively and negatively. Unfortunately there's often a lot of negative programming going on in our minds, especially when we're not aware of it. The good news is you can change it anytime you want! All you have to do is become more aware, notice the thoughts that are going through your mind, then change them.
It's not an easy thing to do, but you can learn how to get better at it by reading books on the subject and practicing what you've learned. Here are a few steps you can take to strengthen your mind and increase your mental strength:
Step 1 – Stop Negative Thoughts Before They Start
You'll never build mental strength if you allow negative thoughts to run through your mind. You've got to take control and stop those negative thoughts before they get the chance to take root. Have you ever been in a situation where someone is talking to you and you're thinking about how much they annoyed you the last time that you met? If so, then this might be the reason why. Allowing your mind to wander has a negative impact on your mental strength . It's important to stay present and focused throughout the day.
Step 2 – Don't Dwell On The Past
You'll often hear people talking about how they don't want to make the same mistakes as their parents. They constantly focus on what went wrong and spend a lot of time thinking about events from the past. This is a common mistake that stops them from moving forward with their life.
If you're going to build mental strength then it's important that you don't dwell on the past too much . You might be thinking that this is a strange thing to say as a lot of people agree with this idea. However, it's easier said than done because we often live in the past without even realizing it. What we think, say and do is all based on what's happened in the past.
Step 3 - Developing Your Own Personality
The next step is to develop your own personality. Developing your personality means you don't copy the personality of someone else. This can be a parent, friend or co-worker. It's important that you're aware of how other people behave and why they behave the way they do . You should then adapt this behavior to suit you.
Unfortunately, many people allow their lives to be dictated by others without taking the time to consider how they personally want to live their life. It's not easy but it's important that you're aware of what you like and dislike . This is especially true if your ideal lifestyle is different from the one you currently have.
Step 4 - Analyze Your Greatest Strengths
You need to be absolutely honest with yourself when you do this next step. It's important that you recognize the positive attributes in your life so that you can work on building upon them . You might have a number of great skill sets but it's unlikely that they're equal in terms of their importance. Some are going to be more important than others. You need to try and identify which ones they are so that you can put them in your personal "resilience" box when you think about your life goals.
Step 5 - Practice Self-Insight
One of the most important aspects of personal resilience is understanding yourself with a certain degree of depth. It's not easy to do as human beings aren't as good as we might like at seeing ourselves clearly. We tend to gloss over details and we don't see things that we'd really rather not see.
One of the best ways that I know for people to practice self-insight is through writing . That's because it forces self-reflection, which is the foundation for positive change. People who are skilled at self-reflection are often called "reflective practitioners" because they can take what's going on in their heads and put it into words so that others can understand them better too. The aim of reflection is to consciously explore your own mind.